Feeling Let Down
Have you ever been let down by another person?
I was in a meeting the other day where people were talking about the hurt they felt after being let down. I imagine we have all at some time felt that.
When someone hurts or disappoints us often the pain is so deep that it feels impossible to trust anyone again. Making us want to retreat from everyone rather than risk more pain by trusting again. The thought of being disappointed or taken advantage of again scares us and makes us feel vulnerable...
In one sense, trusting people is a choice to think the best of them. It is an aspect of love that, as the Bible puts it, “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7). That means not second-guessing people’s motives or expecting them to hurt us. It also means forgiving others when they do hurt us, overlooking offenses when possible, and not keeping detailed accounts of the ways we’ve been mistreated.
Sometimes we want others to prove themselves so that we can trust them again. More often than not, trust can be built (or rebuilt) between two people through good communication and by consistently meeting appropriate expectations. But the truth is, as long as we look to people to give us confidence and security, we’ll never be free from distrust. Our confidence and trust must be in God Himself, rather than simply figuring out how to trust people; because He is our ultimate source of love, security, and hope for the future.